We have entered a New Year and perhaps you have set yourself some goals or resolutions that you want to achieve or stick to in this New Year ahead.
I know, many people do not believe in New Year’s resolutions, in fact, they somehow have gained a bad reputation as if they are meant to be broken. The truth is that you have probably made resolutions at some point in your life or even at some point during the past year. There are always things or habits that we want to acquire, achieve or get rid of. We all at some point had a wake-up call to revise our lives, to redefine what we want in our lives and what makes us happy.
I personally find that the beginning of a New Year can be a great opportunity to start to make the changes you want to see in your life and that will make you achieve your goals. While I think the beginning of a New Year is a good time to set out your goals, resolutions or intentions, it isn’t the only good moment. I believe that we are in a constant learning and evolving process, so it’s always a great time when we want to be the best version of ourselves.
I also find that by setting our resolutions, goals or intentions, we go through a process of reflection and that itself invites us to make changes that will help us to live a happier and healthier life and therefore will make us a better person. I have taken some time during these past few days to reflect about the last year, about all the things I am thankful of, things I have learnt since I became a mum, my personal life and things I want to have and do in my life. It isn’t the first time I’ve done this during a New Year, I have been doing it for a while. Have I achieved all my goals and resolutions set in the past years? Some of them yes, some of them no. However, I have always learnt along the way.
Here I want to share with you my tips that have helped me to achieve my goals and I hope they help you too.
5 Tips to Achieve your New Year’s Resolutions and/or Goals
1. Have a plan for each resolution and/or goal. What I mean is, do not just write down what you want to change or achieve, but actually think how you can change it or achieve it. For instance, if one of your New Year’s resolutions is to eat healthier. Perhaps one step to achieve this is by choosing a healthy snack when you have a craving for sweets. So, perhaps now you make sure you have a piece of fruit or nuts in your bag to snack on when that craving comes. Thus, the idea is that you make a plan of little things that you can do to achieve your resolution or goal.
2. Share your goal or intention with others. Ideally with a person that you know will support you to achieve your resolution or goal. This way you have that person that will kindly police you when you are breaking your resolution or when you are feeling discouraged about any set back that comes on the way. For instance, my husband and I said that we will focus more on the positive aspects of our lives, rather than talking too much about the things we don’t like or don’t want in our lives. So, this means that when one of us starts to fall into the complaining spiral, the other one will kindly remind us about our resolution and intentions to see the positive side.
3. Acknowledge every little step you take to achieve your goal or resolution. When we think and write down our goals and/or resolutions, we see the big picture. This often means we forget about the little steps we take to get to be where we want to be. Remember, changes are more likely to last when they happen gradually. For instance, if your resolution is to exercise more and you get to go for a run or walk for 30 mins once or twice a week, then acknowledge that as the first great step towards achieving your goal.
4. Don’t beat yourself up, instead allow yourself room for setbacks. This is probably the most challenging. We start the New Year with our best intentions to achieve our goals and why not, we started well until one day we find ourselves breaking our resolution and having a setback. So, one day you find yourself buying and eating a whole packet of biscuits and a jar of Nutella, when your resolution was to eat healthier. You will probably tell yourself how you can’t stick to it, how it’s a New Year’s resolution and therefore they never work, how they are meant to fail, and the conversation can go on and on. However, by doing this you are just creating a bad relationship with food that will lead to more frustration in the future. So, rather than punishing yourself for breaking your resolution, see it as a temporary setback and give yourself the opportunity to start again. Support yourself as you would do with a friend.
5. Whenever you can, find the time to envisage yourself achieving your goal. As a busy mum, I know how hard it is to find a quiet moment during the day. However, try your best to find a few minutes, it can be 5 or 10 minutes during the day, to visualize your goals or yourself living with the changes you want to see in your life. Perhaps you can get up 10 minutes earlier in the morning or use the time you spend on the train to go to work to close your eyes and visualize what you want in your life.
I hope you find these tips helpful and I wish you a very happy New Year. I look forward to sharing with you more exciting content during this new year ahead. Stay tuned!